Episode 190 - What other people think

Caring about what others think:

Brian explores why people care so much about what others think of them, explaining that this is a survival mechanism developed from the need to belong. He shares his own experience of not succumbing to peer pressure, and encourages the audience to question their assumptions about what others might be thinking.

Overcoming the fear of judgment:

Brian delves deeper into the root of caring about others' opinions, emphasizing the importance of developing a strong sense of authenticity. He suggests actively inquiring about whether others are truly judging us, and considering the actual consequences if they do.

Balancing care for others and self:

Brian shares how he was able to find a balance between caring about people and caring more about himself, allowing him to be open to others' perspectives while not changing his behavior to fit in. He encourages the audience to do the same, and to test the boundaries of what happens if others don't accept them.

Overcoming the fear of public speaking:

He uses the example of public speaking to illustrate how the fear of others' judgments can hold people back. He suggests actively asking others if they are actually thinking negatively about you, and considering whether their opinion is truly the "worst thing in the world."

Cultivating mindfulness and self-inquiry:

Brian emphasizes the importance of being mindful and self-aware, rather than constantly assuming what others are thinking. He encourages the audience to deeply inquire into their own experiences and thought patterns around caring about others' opinions, in order to overcome this limiting mindset.